Justifiable Procrastination

Why is it so incredibly easy for many of us moms to give, do and manage everything and everyone else before committing to creating sacred space for ourselves?

It’s a question I discuss frequently in my D.I.V.A. programs and will probably touch on again in this week’s Divas-do-Lunch program that I’m presenting on Wednesday December 14 at my favorite girl-power place: the Museum of Motherhood in NYC.

However, more than treating this topic as a curious, albeit constant challenge for women in the workshop to discuss, I am clearly suffering from a massive bought of procrastination, in this exact moment, as I write this blog.

It’s time for me to ask myself a hard question;  is my dedication to posting on time every week really a reflection of my stability, consistency and professionalism or is there something else lurking behind that rosy rainbow?

As my lovely loyal readers know, I post late Sunday for a fresh, beginning-of-the-week read to hopefully encourage, inspire and support you in whatever current situation you find yourself in.   But does my posting like a maniacal cuckoo clock mean I’m being totally impeccable?  The truth is, maybe not.

As I sit writing this blog, I am ignoring the new piles I’ve intentionally created in order to force myself to be disgusted by my sacred home office space.  Maybe if I dread coming to work everyday I’ll find the motivation to do something about the clutter I’ve created.  Don’t believe me?  Here is a picture to prove it. 

Of course, you don’t have the benefit of seeing the lovely space around it . . . the newly fung shui-ed living room and de-cluttered altar with half of the crystals, Kuan Ying statuette, rose quartz with the word “Focus” emblazoned on it.

Furthermore, you can’t possibly see the three loads of laundry waiting to be folded and put away, or hear the dryer signaling one more pile is ready to be brought up.  You can’t smell the one-of-a-kind, amazing Terralumina brand aromatherapy cleaning spray I’ve used to wipe down the coffee and dining room tables, or see the cleaned-up side porch where our hopefully-soon-to-be-adopted bunny Thumper is now being kept company by the just removed, still dripping with water air conditioner units my that honey finally had time to move for me.

Oh yes, I’m nothing if not a first rate, clear-the-decks, keep your hands and feet away from her mouth, multi-tasking domestic goddess machine.   But there are times when a spade has to be called a spade.  If it’s true we make time for the things that are important to us – why is creating an outward representation of our inner sanctity not the top of my list?

I’d like to discuss this more but right now I have to put on one of my other fine chapeaux and dash out the door.  I’m today’s carpool mama for four girls who are about to wrap up their Little Village Playhouse rehearsal.  

Sigh – I guess this question will remain open and so I leave it to you to help me answer it.  I await your comments.

4 Responses to Justifiable Procrastination
  1. Jenn Deutsch
    December 11, 2011 | 8:43 pm

    I have asked myself this question too several times. I think those who are carers and givers have such big hearts that they know they will get to it when they can and even though it is a priority the actions they take outwardly for others are seen as more essential then taking care of things they need right away. They feel they can wait and take the time later. However, I am being hounded by Wonderful Wendi (my fabulous weight watchers leader who has helped me take off 20 pounds this far) and my pseudo Aunt June and pseudo Aunt Amy and great friend Lisa to put me first and say no. To make my sacred space just that special. You wrote previously about sacred space and the importance of having it. It reminded me of those pink chairs, my mentors room and my room (which right now actually has the bed made) Let’s make a deal, I have started cleaning up here and will finish and reclaim sacred space if you reclaim yours? Deal? As always Shira, I read each week, just can not always post back. Hug to you and one day we will actually meet face to face. BTW NYC visit the week of the 20th for me.

    • Diva-Mama
      December 11, 2011 | 9:36 pm

      DEAL Jenn! Thank you for the great comment . . . as always. And yes, a meeting in NYC for my most fabulous fan and loyal blog reader is definitely in order! Hugs to you too!

  2. Shanda
    December 13, 2011 | 4:04 am

    Great blog post. Remember that procrastination is sister to perfectionism. You see the two influencing each other into the grey area of decision making. Read my article on how to get out of being overwhelmed. Hope this helps. http://www.heartcorewomen.com/4-common-reasons-women-overwhelmed/

    • Diva-Mama
      December 13, 2011 | 7:24 am

      Thanks Shanda! I will be sure to share your wonderful article on FB & Twitter too! ps I have come to terms with my lack of perfectionism and am at peace staying focused on what I love and knowing I will eek out a space to tend to this office sitch sooner than later – but without doing a major headtrip on my myself about it. Your insights and advice, as always, are valuable and much appreciated.

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