Life, love and what happens next… in honor of Calvin Goodman

His is not a name many of you know, but Calvin Goodman is a beautiful, courageous and accomplished man.  In my life, in my family, he’s more famous than Sinatra, more brilliant than Einstein and much cuter than Bieber.  At least for now, Calvin Goodman is my Grandfather, still.  And even though he’s going to die probably tonight, or tomorrow or maybe the next day, he’s still here on Earth with me and my mothers and my sisters and brothers, and honestly I’m trying to cherish every moment.  He’s still with us, even if we are counting down the minutes until he crosses over;  even if he’s not awake; even if he’s lying in the middle of his home, mostly unaware of what’s going on around him.

Making a last-minute dash across the country to be with my Grandpa has been tough.  In so many ways I feel like it’s my father lying in the middle of the living room, in a hospital bed that belongs somewhere else, not here.  This man taught me about unwavering strength and love, about what it’s like to know almost everything and how to be the smartest guy in the room.  By his example he also taught me that some men are beautiful and some family members can be trusted.  As I sit here with my family in the City of Angels I’m in awe, because in this coming together of like-named souls, who have gathered to sit quietly, and pray, and sing for our beloved Grandpa – father – Calvin, I am reminded of how beautiful the Universe really is.  Yes, Calvin Goodman is still a great man because he brought our family together and in doing so reminds me that we can be our best, that we can show up and be loving and supportive and you know what — every once in a while that’s a good thing to remember.

His is a name you now know.  Calvin Goodman.  My Grandfather.  I love you Grandpa.  Until the very end you are still teaching me how to show up in this world.  And you’ll still be teaching all of us long after you leave.  Even when you’re not here in physical form, you will always be my beloved Grandpa, my mentor, my friend and a wonderful teacher.  I love you.



11 Responses to Life, love and what happens next… in honor of Calvin Goodman
  1. Maia
    August 15, 2011 | 4:08 am

    Shira, you and your family are in my thoughts today. Sending you love and light… xo, Maia

    • Diva-Mama
      August 17, 2011 | 9:49 am

      Thank you, Maia. Prayers and support are welcome and so greatly appreciated.

  2. Jennifer
    August 17, 2011 | 5:59 pm

    Shira, I just read your blog. I was truly touched by what you wrote. It gave me chills, as just 7 months ago, my grandfather crossed. I eulogized him, and in doing so, I spoke about how just the week before Poppy introduced me to his weekend home attendant as ”his girl”, and in my eulogy I ended with ”I will always be ’your girl’ and you will always be ’my Poppy’. So your words brought a smile to my face as I could feel your love for your grandfather.

    Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers…

    • Diva-Mama
      August 18, 2011 | 12:57 pm

      Thank you, Jenn. We wouldn’t be the women we are without these wonderful Poppy’s in our lives.

    • Diva-Mama
      August 23, 2011 | 8:41 pm

      And I could feel your love for your Poppy. How lucky are we to have these men in our lives. They helped form us to be the women we are today.

  3. Heidi
    August 18, 2011 | 8:24 am

    I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that the many wonderful memories you have of your grandpa will bring you some comfort at this difficult time. Hamakom yenachem etchem b’toch she’ar aveilei tzion v’yerushalayim. May G-d comfort you, together with all mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.

    • Diva-Mama
      August 18, 2011 | 12:55 pm

      Thank you, Heidi. Your heartfelt comment is much appreciated.

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  6. patricia french
    June 12, 2012 | 9:00 am

    Hello Shira
    I was a clent of your grandfathers for over 10 years, loving our monthly chats. I was honored to provide the Te Deum art work for his holiday cards a year before he died. I was missing his voice tonight and so happy to stumble upon your loving tribute. He always spoke so proudly of his family and I know your name came up over the years. I live in Ireland and Portugal now, so if you are ever across the pond , do get in touch. kindest regards, patricia

    • Diva-Mama
      June 12, 2012 | 1:07 pm

      Dear Patricia,

      I cannot tell you how much I appreciated your note. As we are almost upon the one year anniversary of his passing, I too really miss his voice and have been thinking about him a lot lately. I also very well remember the card. How lovely to have that connection to him. I will surely keep you in mind for when I am able to traverse the pond. In the meantime, thank you for stumbling upon the blog. I am sure Grandpa is reading them too, from his loftier perch.

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